Tree of Knowledge

Tree of Knowledge
The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand...Frank Herbert

Friday, 25 May 2007

The First Steps...

I was pulled out an abyss of hopelessness by Solutions Focused Brief Therapy. Some months ago, I was involuntarily classified as an unemployed PMETs

Bravely optimistic, I tried to write-in, eMailed, walk-ins, bugged every single contact I could think of. It must be around about 200 over applications. Disappointment & doom starts to set in, as memories of last year's months of unemployment's woes began to flashed across, when I was retrenched the year before that.


So I began to think, where did it I go wrong? What can I do to "age-proof" my job ? I don't want to grab any job that comes along and two / three years down the line, start the merry go round jobless cycle yet again.

I have no viable business plan to a business on my own, let alone the capital to do it! Then, it dawn on me that I was most unhappy working alone. I need social interaction in my work. So I visited my old friend working in a Volunteer Welfare Non-Profit Organisation......which leads me to realised that I needed to be adequately trained in the helping profession.

Then I seek out & talked my other good old friend who knows about counselling.....and another,......and somehow stepped into the world of Solutions Focused Training and introduced to this remarkable healing people approach that have touch many a troubled souls, helping them to help themselves to finally overcome their own damaging inhibitions.

As I attended the First Basic Training Module, I began to put to practice what I have learned.
At first conciously, then unconsciously, finding myself realising that "Hey you! just do it & see how the miracle of change unfolds itself" Yes, Things & People are begining to change...not a whole lot, but a little by little.....it is astonishingly, remarkably good.

" When you change the way you look at things, the things you looked at, changed " by Dr. Wayne Dryer " The Power of Intentions"

WOW! Powerful Stuffs, isn't it?

So instead of dwelling on the problems & the issues surrounding it, focused on the Good Stuffs. The resultant effect/environment you want to arrive at. What is YOUR GOAL & seek your utmost to achieve it every little possible moment you can think of.

From a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being hearing about a new technique in helping people overcome their difficulty ( unconsciously unskilled level ) & 10 being the smooth competent SF facilitator ( unconsciously skilled level ) I guess now I am at 3.

I am working on moving one notch up to 4 by constantly being aware of my own dealings ( actions & words ) with the people around me first. And hoping to make a significant change of my behaviour towards them. At the same time loading up on SF knowledge by reading up as much as I can cramp into my lucid brain cells.

My Miracle have unknowingly happens....and has slowly began to unfold itself, moment by moment. Yes, I have already tried to use it, twice of five occasions on various individuals.

Well just yesterday I was fuming MAD, triggered by some negative comments. I had to bite my jaws tight together, and not to let out my words of frustrations...as long as I focused on being the offended party/victim I couldn't get out it, it went on for at least an hour. I feared I was about to turn into Incredible HULK.

And suddenly, all it takes a switch (in your mind) to flip it over with gentle kindness & loving care....and it's gone, like magic. Proceeded with your actions as if it is not there in the first place. No more ill feelings. No more anger. Everything sort just defused itself. What you focused is what you get! It's amazing & it's my first steps into Solutions Focused Brief Therapy.






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